Despite being common, breakups are somehow underrated traumatic events in our lives. Often because of the frequency of breakups, people tend to minimize how deeply hurtful and damaging it can actually be for an individual.
Breakups can severally influence an individual’s sense of self, and even their self-esteem. They can become a reminder of rejection or failure, and make people distrustful of others.
However, life must go on, and each one of us must learn to overcome obstacles and setbacks that come our way in life.
Here are some tips on recovering from a tough breakup-
Take some time off to let it out. Suppressing your emotions, or holding back and not fully expressing how you actually feel, can be very detrimental for your psychological as well as physical health. And this is not only true for when you are feeling low but as a general rule in life! Some people often hide their feelings, fearing that their intense emotions may not be appropriate in front of some people. However, as long as you take time out, and let it out, in a public or private setting, you will be able to relieve a major stressor.
Yes, it may sound cliché, but crying can be good for you when you are feeling low. So many people often say, “I will not cry for my ex”, but the truth of the matter is, it is not necessary that you cry for them. Instead, you should allow the grief to come out; the grief of losing an important relationship from your life, and losing a part of yourself. Restricting your true feelings will only result in a dam breaking sooner or later!
Once you are able to express yourself, you can begin to take the next step: understanding what you want in a partner. Take some time to honestly assess your past relationship, how compatible you are with your partner, what attracted you to them in the first place, how happy you felt in the relationship, etc etc. This can be an important step towards successful relationships in the future, as it helps you understand the traits in a partner you may be looking for. Neglecting this step results in individuals repeating avoidable, past mistakes. This helps to break free from unhealthy patterns in your relationships and can help you learn how to be a better person and a better partner.
Sleep, eat and exercise. Often when we are feeling low, we tend to neglect healthy habits. Focusing too much on feelings of sadness can result in poor self-care. But, especially to break free of negativity, self-care is a crucial step. Feeling sad, lost, lazy, and simply exhausted comes as a package deal after a breakup or a loss. But as tempting as it can be to throw your regular routine out the window, it will slow down your healing process in the long run. While for the first few days it can be good to let your feelings out, do not let them affect your sleeping and eating schedule. Sticking to your regular patterns may seem hard at first, but in the long run, they will speed up the healing process.
Do not let a particular setback decrease your faith in God or yourself, or even decrease your trust in others. Finding a helpful guide can be tricky, especially someone who would guide you spiritually. Do not let grief take over your life. Our Expert Astrologers and Tarot Readers can help you analyze your situation through a different lens and help you look at it with a new perspective. They can even help you figure out what step to take next.