Webster's defines loneliness as "the condition of being lonely; solitude; seclusion." Would you call yourself lonely? We may have bushels of friends in our life, our family, relatives, and maybe even that special someone many long for. But despite having it all, one may feel lonely and this complex emotional response cannot be avoided. There are ways in which you can, however, deal with this feeling and do something about it. Begin by identifying the mental, emotional and spiritual factors that are triggering such thoughts in your mind. Many of us feel something is amiss, yet, we fail to realize what that something is. A feeling of dissatisfaction lingers and this soon starts getting in the way of happiness that can be derived from spending time with loved ones or pursuing what the heart desires.
There are many situations in life that can leave someone feeling lonely and at other times, make someone crave to be left alone. Loss of someone who meant the world to you, lack of friendship, broken marriages, unstable or dysfunctional relationships, etc. are some common causes behind this response in the life of an adult.
Each sun sign in astrology has a unique personality trait and depending upon their nature they are likely to react differently to situations in life, which are normally linked with loneliness. Read on to find out which side of the fence you are likely to find yourself in, as far as feelings of loneliness and melancholia are concerned.
Aries: Fire sign Aries is quick to anger. In a fit of rage, you say the harshest of things and this begins at quite an early age. You find it hard to control your emotions as well as the words that come out of your mouth when you are enraged. You may grow up believing you are depressed. But, you don't like to stay this way for too long. You are able to revert back to your cheerful self and smile like nothing bad had ever happened.
Taurus: Taurus seeks solitude to think and to breathe a sigh of relief on being away from the chaos of your social circle. You love your friends and you enjoy their company but there are times when you need to be left alone with your thoughts. Feelings of loneliness may grip you every now and then but you seek comfort from the material pleasures of life.
Gemini: Gemini does take a break from people even though it's hard to believe considering how busy they always seem. Theirs is an ever expanding network - whether friends or family Gemini will always have more than their share of loved ones around them. Generally, they are not lonely but they are constantly in search of something that may make them feel restless.
Cancer: Cancer as a deeply emotional water sign derives pleasure of home and close knit relationships. If they have the love of their loved ones there's nothing more they seek. Once the basic needs of life are met, Cancer is most likely to be satisfied and solitude is something they need when lovey-doveyness starts to feel a little too much. They go back to their personal space and pursue something creative.
Leo: Leo is happy most of the time and this is a sign that wants everyone around to be happy or be strong enough to face life's hardships. They like to spread messages of peace and happiness and encourage others to learn life's lessons without going into smithereens. Loneliness is a big no-no for this sign that wishes to forever remain in the spotlight.
Virgo: Meticulous Virgo often feels lonely even when surrounded by people. There are not many like them around and they wish people would start getting their point of view. If they nag or point out your flaws, it's not for thrills but they just cannot stand things being out of place. There are times when they use this loneliness to their advantage through self-reflection.
Libra: Libra is a happy sign - most of the time, but there are times when they sink to the depths of depression. They think deeply about life and their relationships, any event that's emotionally disturbing is likely to give Libra sleepless nights. They do not dwell on these emotions for too long though and are quick to balance their slightly tilted scales again.
Scorpio: Scorpio is again a water sign that's known for being an easy prey to melancholia. They feel victimized more often than not. The world does not get them - this is something any Scorpio will vouch for. They suffer from trust issues and this acts as a roadblock to building happy and fulfilling relationship. A little courage and trust will help Scorpio beat the blues and lead a happier life. Seclusion is a must but it's the duration that one needs to take care of.
Sagittarius: Sagittarius likes to be a lone explorer. They love people but are not so keen on forming relationships. Strangers are welcome anytime. They are optimists and like to take things lightly in their life. They do feel lonely at times but they get so used to this feeling, it hardly matters to them.
Capricorn: Capricorn works their way to the top by working extra hours and this crazy schedule hardly ever leaves them with time to spend with those closest to them. They don't feel lonely all the time but when the day's job is done and everyone in the house is asleep, they may be gripped with feelings of loneliness and may overthink. Finding a work-life balance is recommended for Capricorn.
Aquarius: Aquarians are keen on building relationships and are always surrounded by friends and acquaintances. They are born with a vision and nothing is more important to them than other people's happiness and peace in the world. Their new and unique ideas keep them occupied most of the time and they rarely feel lonely when there's so much going on in their heads.
Pisces: Pisces wishes for spiritual upliftment and wants to connect with his or her higher self. They want to go on a journey to explore the mysteries of the universe. This deeply philosophical sign is also melancholic by nature and it shows when you interact with them for a longer duration. They are vulnerable and are quick to get hurt by criticism and anything that's considered insensitive in their books. Unlike Scorpio, they don't hide their feelings too well.
Tips to fight loneliness:
- Stay healthy - look and feel good by eating right and exercising.
- A good routine - work-life balance is important. Don’t ignore one for the other.
- Job satisfaction - Find a job that makes you happy. Don't drive yourself crazy doing something that's against your desires.
- Cultivate hobbies - keep yourself busy doing things that you truly enjoy.
- Friends - Nothing beats friendship. Start valuing your friends. Quality is important, quantity is not.
- Love - Finding love is not easy but it's essential. You haven't lived, if you haven't loved.