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rate of divorce is going up every year, at a faster rate in Western
societies, and the East seems determined to fast catch up. Failed
marriages, and the family unit mean that the very fabric of society
is disintegrating. Failed marriages particularly when children
are involved, can be traumatic. In a time when everyone is looking
for 'instant' happiness, people jump headlong into a relationship
on the basis of 'Love at first sight'.
The
success of a marriage depends on so much more than what meets
the eye. Ancient Vedic astrology studies every aspect of married
life that is relevant in today's modern day society; and therefore
ensures that so much that we take for granted is studied thoroughly.
While individual efforts towards a happy marriage can never be
undermined; and are the very essence of a truly successful marriage,
nonetheless if we can foresee how little or how much effort will
be put in by both partners into a relationship
.won't the
world have fewer divorced couples.
Mental Compatibility
What is the basic mentality of two people; are they intellectually
inclined, or more inclined towards family matters; towards social
service. Two people could also be quite business minded, and would
tend to give money high importance. Some people are basic fighters,
whether the situation is social or political. Therefore a match
between a person who has an inclination towards social service
will find it difficult to get along with a person who gives money
high importance.A balance between the type of mentality between
a man and a woman is necessary. As a woman is traditionally a
caretaker of the family, it is always better if she is seen as
being more inclined towards family. This also ensures that ego
problems are minimised between two people.
Power Compatibility
In a relationship a power struggle is often one of the biggest
problems. When both man and woman try to be boss of the family
unit. If there is continous struggle for power, problems will
be many. It is important that the man be head of the family and
while a woman can be equal to a man, and this is considered ideal,
when a woman has a personality that is more powerful, problems
will arise.
Longevity of life with one another
It is important for the long term happiness of two individuals
and their family that they are blessed with a long life, and a
long married life, so that companionship lasts a life time and
the presence of both mother and father is essential for children.
Moreover it ensures that no financial or emotional instability
comes into married life due to the loss of a partner or the ill
health of either one. This point ensures that two people will
live a long and healthy life with one another.
Physical habits and its relation sexual compatibility
Every person has a physical nature that is characteristic
of that person
.some of us are inclined to enjoy cool weather
and the outdoors, while some of us are very indoor people and
like to be cosy. Some are very adventuourous while some are quite
lazy and laid back. If two people have two completely opposite
physical characteristics in their personalities, they will find
it difficult in the long run to have a sexually compatible relationship.
While this is not apparent to many initially in a relationship;
but over a course of time, these differences become more prominent.
Adjustment and affection
This point reflects the amount of adjustment two people will
be willing to do for one another in their marriage. This also
reflects the affection which is between two people towards one
another, naturally when there is a high level of affection then
a will to adjust also exists. It reflects the interactions of
day to day behaviour and basic likes and dislikes, and type of
lifestyle that each enjoy.
Comptability at a spiritual level
What type of personality do both people have, are they spiritually
inclined and tend to be givers and are also nature lovers, the
second type are balanced and tend to be both givers and takers
in life, the third type are takers, and tend to be quite aggressive
and selfish. It is important that a balance exist in the relationship
for it to be successful.
Success and prosperity
This is considered to be one of the most critical in the success
of a marriage. Do the charts of both people enhance the prosperity
and well being of the family. Will there be family happiness both
with one another and with children. The well being of the family
as a unit is relfected in this point.
Healthy children
Children are a vital part of most marriages, and their good
health is most important for family happiness. Ancient vedic astrology
recognised the importance of genetic compatability and takes into
account any hereditary problems that could possibly occur due
to marriage. This is an important point for those who wish to
have a family; however in light of medical progress this point
is not as important as it used to be. Nonetheless, if there is
a problem indicated at the outset of marriage, one can always
check before taking any decision.
There are further aspects that are studied in Vedic astrology
which shed light on further aspects, but the above forms the basis
of ascertaining whether a relationship will be successful or not.
Better to be safe than sorry!
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