> Guna Milap
rate of divorce is going up every year, at a faster rate
in Western societies, and the East seems determined to fast
catch up. Failed marriages, and the family unit mean that
the very fabric of society is disintegrating. Failed marriages
particularly when children are involved, can be traumatic.
In a time when everyone is looking for 'instant' happiness,
people jump headlong into a relationship on the basis of
'Love at first sight'.
The success of a marriage depends on so much more than what
eye. Ancient Vedic astrology studies every aspect of married
life that is relevant in today's modern day society; and
therefore ensures that so much that we take for granted
is studied thoroughly. While individual efforts towards
a happy marriage can never be undermined; and are the very
essence of a truly successful marriage, nonetheless if we
can foresee how little or how much effort will be put in
by both partners into a relationship
won't the world
have fewer divorced couples.
What is the basic mentality of two people; are they intellectually
inclined, or more inclined towards family matters; towards
social service. Two people could also be quite business
minded, and would tend to give money high importance. Some
people are basic fighters, whether the situation is social
or political. Therefore a match between a person who has
an inclination towards social service will find it difficult
to get along with a person who gives money high importance.A
balance between the type of mentality between a man and
a woman is necessary. As a woman is traditionally a caretaker
of the family, it is always better if she is seen as being
more inclined towards family. This also ensures that ego
problems are minimised between two people.
In a relationship a power struggle is often one of the biggest
problems. When both man and woman try to be boss of the
family unit. If there is continous struggle for power, problems
will be many. It is important that the man be head of the
family and while a woman can be equal to a man, and this
is considered ideal, when a woman has a personality that
is more powerful, problems will arise.
Longevity of life
with one another
It is important for the long term happiness of two individuals
and their family that they are blessed with a long life,
and a long married life, so that companionship lasts a life
time and the presence of both mother and father is essential
for children. Moreover it ensures that no financial or emotional
instability comes into married life due to the loss of a
partner or the ill health of either one. This point ensures
that two people will live a long and healthy life with one
Physical habits and
its relation sexual compatibility
Every person has a physical nature that is characteristic
of that person
.some of us are inclined to enjoy cool
weather and the outdoors, while some of us are very indoor
people and like to be cosy. Some are very adventuourous
while some are quite lazy and laid back. If two people have
two completely opposite physical characteristics in their
personalities, they will find it difficult in the long run
to have a sexually compatible relationship. While this is
not apparent to many initially in a relationship; but over
a course of time, these differences become more prominent.
Adjustment and affection
This point reflects the amount of adjustment two people
will be willing to do for one another in their marriage.
This also reflects the affection which is between two people
towards one another, naturally when there is a high level
of affection then a will to adjust also exists. It reflects
the interactions of day to day behaviour and basic likes
and dislikes, and type of lifestyle that each enjoy.
Comptability at a
What type of personality do both people have, are they spiritually
inclined and tend to be givers and are also nature lovers,
the second type are balanced and tend to be both givers
and takers in life, the third type are takers, and tend
to be quite aggressive and selfish. It is important that
a balance exist in the relationship for it to be successful.
Success and prosperity
This is considered to be one of the most critical in the
success of a marriage. Do the charts of both people enhance
the prosperity and well being of the family. Will there
be family happiness both with one another and with children.
The well being of the family as a unit is relfected in this
Children are a vital part of most marriages, and their good
health is most important for family happiness. Ancient vedic
astrology recognised the importance of genetic compatability
and takes into account any hereditary problems that could
possibly occur due to marriage. This is an important point
for those who wish to have a family; however in light of
medical progress this point is not as important as it used
to be. Nonetheless, if there is a problem indicated at the
outset of marriage, one can always check before taking any
There are further aspects that are studied
in Vedic astrology which shed light on further aspects,
but the above forms the basis of ascertaining whether a
relationship will be successful or not.
Better to be safe than sorry!